So the EU doesn't want the UK?

So yesterday's EU parliament included:
The EU Commissioner (Spanish / Portugese) stating that the UK asked for too much and that it would have ruined the single market. I ask, isn't that what's it'S done anyway?
Then we had the French saying the UK shouldn't be in Europe.
The Begiums saying that the English language should not be spoken.

However, what is odd, is that they are still asking us for money.
1. For the EU regardless of the refund we get, we are still huge net payers
2. The IMF will request upto Stg 40 bln which is supposed to be the limit, in order to bail out the Euro
3. We have funded the Irish and have a total exposure of Stg 80bln

So I am confused. They don't want us in the EU nor the Euro with any power , but they are more than happy to take our money and try to ruin the UK and the Banking industry, which is helping to fund them!

The Europeans really are stupid!!